Author: Julie Yap Daza
I have a habit of writing the date of purchase on all my books and this one I got over a year ago, Sept. 2007, mom was still alive. Was wandering around National Bookstore looking for Betita Claire’s “No Boyfriend Since Birth” but since that was out of stock, I roamed around the aisles browsing through covers and I ran into this one. W/o thinking I picked it up, read the introduction, scanned through the pages and paid it. The cashier looked at me for a full second before taking my money, she must be thinking am someone’s novice mistress.
Got home and mom was surprised with my purchase but being a liberal thinker she said … well that should come handy if a time comes when you fall in love with a married man that you have no choice but to settle being the number 2. Most mothers would not have the heart to say that to their only child but then again she was not one of those most mothers.
The book has been with Pennie for quite awhile and I missed it like crazy. I read it again and again and though Bang2x wants to borrow it … am not sure if am willing to part with it. Don’t get me wrong am nobody’s mistress but the book is a very enlightening read, I’d say its a must have for every woman out there, wives and mistresses alike.
Quite a few of my office mates teased me about it … somehow the title of the book didn’t quite fit with my personality the way they see it. But as I’ve said reading is a passion and this one captivated me, I had no regrets with the purchase I’ve made and am encouraging all you women out there to get yourselves a copy and read it from cover to cover. You’d be surprise at the things you’d learn.
Here are the 28 Rules :
1. Mistress is not Mrs. Know your place.
– a mistress who pushes his wife away so she can take her place doesn’t know her place. Her place is not to get stuck in monogamy … that is not the mistress’ calling.
2. Even if he tells you he loves you more than his wife, don’t let that go to your head.
– as a rule, men are liars.
3. Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine’s Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Holy Week and his birthday (that’s why mistresses are also called “holiday orphans” because of this).
4. Befriend his secretary but avoid all contact with his driver (Whether he is a company driver or the family driver, the chauffeur is not to be trusted. Family drivers owe their allegiance to whoever pays them their salary and who feeds them the free meals in the kitchen with the other help. In short, they are loyal to the Mrs. more than the Mr.).
5. As tempting as it seems, don’t patronize the wife’s beauty parlor, jewelry shop, dress shop, or father confessor.
6. Don’t call him, wait for him to call.
7. To be seen with him in public once is risky. The second time could be fatal to one of you. The third time is The End for both of you (love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden, it’s supposed to be hidden).
- Love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden it should be hidden.
8. Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults.
9. Mistresses are kept by rich men. But a mistress who is a woman of substance and independent means is better (Translation: Don’t ask him for money).
10. Be discreet (Make sure he is not the type to talk in the sleep).
- There’s no fool like a fool in love.
11. Never travel together (Accidents will always happen. You can never tell).
12. When he breaks a date, charge it to fate, not his fecklessness (Men will be boys. They will forget to call. They will break a date at the last minute. They will stand you up. They won’t explain and they won’t ask for forgiveness. But don’t cry nor throw a tantrum. Don’t break down because a mistress is supposed to understand a man more than his wife does).
13. Wives have their own networks of spies and amigas. It is helpful for the mistress to have her own. A chaperone is not a good idea, however (Chaperones are passe. Besides, they talk).
- Because of her position and location in the underground, the mistress is a lonely woman.
14. Mistresses don’t complain (They shouldn’t. It’s the wives, according to the husbands, who are “always complaining).
15. Being No. 2, the mistress tries harder.
16. Send him home as soon as it becomes apparent that he’s overstaying.
17. It is practical for a mistress to be linked to another man, preferably her lover’s friend.
18. If he’s a public man and you’re thinking of staging an accident of running into him, think: How many accidents can I pull off in one month?
19. Don’t make unnecessary enemies of his children.
20. Remind him to pay for everything in cash – dinner, flowers, perfume, champagne, pearls, diamonds, a microwave oven, etc….
– In God we trust but pay cash you must.
21. Don’t use tears as a weapon. He’s probably had enough of that from the Mrs. (Wives nag. Wives cry. If only for that reason, a mistress doesn’t use tears to get what she wants).
22. Resist the urge to be found.
23. Perish all thought that someday you’ll be No. 1.
24. Married men who keep mistresses don’t like surprises, as a rule.
25. A man with a mistress leads a double life, his mistress only a half life. Cheer up! A career will make you whole.
26. Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Evidence, evidence….!
27. When in doubt, disappear.
28. When all else fails, leave him.
Am reading it again … for the third time I guess. It’s an insightful book so get a copy 
The fourth book in the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer. Yep, I bought a copy earlier when I went to National Bookstore to buy a scientific calculator for my Statistics class. Was it planned? lol … am the impulsive type and though I’ve been meaning to buy the series (though I’ve read the 3 books already) for collection purposes, I started with the fouth one. Weeeee its still in its plastic, didnt dare touch it otherwise I know I won’t stop till am done reading and that’d jeopardize work and school. Would read it during my rest day. Can’t wait for the movie to be released here.
Albeit, this is way off the bandwagon already … but am catching on thanks to the ebooks a colleague of mine sent over at work. Am hopelessly falling deeper than ever with the Twilight series … I know I know this is way obsolete but better late than never right? The last series I got hooked on was Harry Potter, followed by the Shopaholic and now whew … am falling in love with Edward!!!
Cute notebooks!!! yep am crazy about them … and I’ve asked almost all of my close friends at work for one. Hehehe … Am still in school, there seems to be no ending to this schooling of mine so I made that an excuse and asked for notebooks from anyone I could think of. Weeeee I’ve gathered two so far and I still have two people … whom I wont stop bugging till I get one from each. Waaaa.
He’s a popular contemporary Japanese writer and translator. I get to know this name just last Wednesday while I was waiting for D, Mitchy and Aisat in Ayala. I spent an ample time at National Bookstore browsing through books and on one aisle I saw this name for he has lots of books on display. Sat down on the floor (not minding what others think) and began reading through the back covers of the various titles on display and am caught.
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